When speaking to young women, one of the most commonly used ice-breakers in the Arab world is:
“Are you married or are you still a girl?”
In other words, are you still a virgin or not. A man’s touch makes you a woman. Not the spreading of your hips of the blooming of your chest. The mark of puberty is meaningless, without the touch of a man.
You are not a woman, even if men look and talk to you like you are a woman.
You are not a woman, even if your mother reminds you to dress like one.
Even if your aunts remind you to sit like one. Like your legs have a secret.
You are not a woman. You must become a doll. A red bow for lips.
Don’t speak too softly, do you want the men to fall in love?
Don’t speak at all. A woman’s voice is awra (something can stir desire\ must be kept hidden)
Wallah, into el awra